Marriage is a great mystery, and one we continue to explore throughout our married lives. Becoming one begins at the altar, but making it a reality in our everyday life is a lifelong process.
Along the journey, the pressures of married life begin to do one of two things: drive you closer to one another or drive you apart. If you will allow the pressure to bring you closer together, the result is a partnership that can withstand even the most challenging situations.
Georgina and I understand what it means to live under pressure all too well. Not only do we understand the same pressures that every marriage goes through, but we also understand the pressure of living a very public life. We’ve learned over years of pastoring together that it takes a mega-marriage to grow a mega-church. As the church and the influence God has given us has grown, more and more people have begun to look to our marriage as a model.
Like all couples, we’ve gone through seasons when one of us was discouraged and needed the approval and affirmation of the other to lift us up. Without both of us being committed to the miracle in our marriage, we could have drifted apart during times of stress. But instead, our marriage and love for one another has grown stronger as a result of our commitment to maintain our partnership.
Years ago, though I knew God was calling me to start a church, I was torn between God’s calling and my doubts. I wrestled with this decision for a long time, and I was on the verge of saying no to God. I’ll never forget the night Georgina and I stayed up for hours talking about the pros and cons of moving from Santa Barbara to San Diego. I shared with her all my doubts and fears of taking our family from the comfort of everything we’d ever known to start a church in a city where no one knew us. In a moment of vulnerability, I asked her, “Who would come to my church? Who would want to come hear me preach?”
She looked into my eyes and said with more conviction than I’d ever heard in her voice before, “I would go to your church. I would go to hear you preach!”
At a point when I didn’t believe in myself, Georgina believed in me. She saw God’s calling on my life, and I borrowed her yes when all I had was a no.
Sometimes when all you have is a no, you have to do what I did and borrow your spouse’s yes. When you feel like you can’t be the parent you need to be, or you can’t keep going another day at your job, or you can’t imagine being free from debt, you need to tap into the faith of your spouse and borrow their faith. Suppose your spouse doesn’t have a yes on the inside of them either. What do you do then? You borrow God’s yes until you can be the yes for them! Don’t ever let a no stop your marriage from fulfilling its God-given potential. Be a partner to your spouse today and watch your marriage grow in miraculous ways.
- Excerpt from The Heart Revolution book by Sergio De La Mora. Purchase your book today from Amazon.com
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